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GREAT WORDS
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"You have to feel more involved than just writing out a cheque. Charity is almost the wrong word-I think people are beginning to feel more responsible for the world."
- Joanna Lumley
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RECOMMENDED READING
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In his book entitled, "Unfolding Your Dreams for Success: Discover What You Really Want To Do In Life, And Get ANY Job You Want! - Expand Your Mind & Make An Impact!", Michael D. Gandy shows the reader how to develop ambition, and describes how he developed The Benevolence Plan:
"There are two types of motivation: rewards and occurrences (to and from)...
Most of the time when we think about what motivates us, we think about what we’re striving for. We think about what our reward is at the end of the journey. We are motivated by what we are going to get out of it, right?
Some examples of the things that we are motivated to strive for are: money, incentives (prizes and awards), promotions, benefits, fame, power, and sex (or the like). These are things that we look forward to. I call all of these 'rewards.'
The other type of motivation is what we’re motivated from, or things that motivate us after they already exist. Instead of being motivated for something, we’re motivated from something. These things often tend to give us a 'burst of energy out of nowhere.'
Some examples of the things that we’re motivated from are: fear (including survival) and the lack of fear, pride, getting hurt, lack of stress, addiction, threat and challenge, being physically comfortable and/or healthy, feeling attractive, appreciation and recognition, being utilized, compliments, accomplishments, clear vision, figuring things out, making other people happy, being in the holiday spirit, seeing something or doing something we like, curiosity, when things go our way… and of course, support. I call these 'occurrences.'
When trying to get motivated, most people obviously only pay attention to the rewards that they’re going to get. This leads us to think that if we’re not receiving these things, then why should we strive?
My secret to developing such an intense ambition is to pay attention to both the rewards and the occurrences as much as you can.
By wanting to develop ambition, or to get motivated, you are telling me that there is a reason for it. Your reason is your goal: to get that dream job. Your dream job is your reward.
The problem is that the reward is too big. If you’re reward is too small, then it’s not worth the hassle, and if you’re reward is too big then it seems out of reach and almost impossible to obtain. You need more self-esteem for that to be your only motivation.
So what do you do? Add more motives!
Adding More Motives
There are two ways you can add more motives effectively as well. I would recommend doing both.
The first way is to reward your milestones. Along with your ultimate reward (dream job), you should add smaller rewards along the way, motivating you to strive for each one, so that it doesn’t seem like such a far distance to travel.
For example, if your dream job requires a three-year college degree, then plan to buy yourself something as a reward for passing each term! Make the rewards larger, the farther you go!
The second way to add motives is to incorporate occurrences every single day. Why every day? Because motivation simply doesn’t last…
Take care of your body and get yourself into a more comfortable work environment, spend an extra 10 minutes freshening up every morning, learn something you’re curious about, and do one more thing on your to-do list before you go to bed! And because the same thing gets boring after awhile, change your occurrences around on a regular basis!
My suggestion: make sure that you incorporate a minimum of six occurrences per day, every day!
Make a list of all the different types of occurrences you can think of, and keep it in your wallet, purse, desk drawer, on the bathroom mirror, or on the refrigerator! While you’re at it, post reminders of all your rewards too! It’s very easy to forget that you’re striving for anything; remind yourself of what you promised yourself!
The happier you are, the less stressful you are. Choose motives that actually motivate you, and don’t count surviving as one of your six daily occurrences!
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